William Doran — Fri., Jun. 13, 2025
Adapted from an article just published in the Linewaiter’s Gazette (by me!) for the Park Slope Food Coop on June 3, 2025. Photos by Michael Berman. Read the full article here!

Food is one of those things we cannot escape as animal beings – something in an increasingly divided world that we all still have in common: the need to eat.

Eating in community is even better. Yet New York City is full of people who eat alone. Even those living—and eating—with partners or children still often mindlessly chomp through meals. Fewer and fewer people seem to truly know their immediate communities, which makes it hard to connect, share burdens, or feel less alone. So I embarked on a mission to find people in the Coop’s community who are actively connecting through food.

Member Rachel Luo joined the Coop in 2018 and has built a thriving network in New York by bringing people together through food.

She started hosting cookbook dinners, where friends and strangers could share a meal and forge new connections. She explained, “I pick out a cookbook… something culturally interesting or maybe something I don’t know about.” She then invites a handful of people to cook items from some of the book’s recipes and enjoy them together.

Picks have included My America by Kwame Onwuachi, Bethlehem by Fadi Kattan, and Chinese Enough by Kristina Cho. In Cho’s book, a chapter titled “It Takes A Village” highlights communal recipes prepared with others as a way of bonding. Luo added, “I made dumplings with my parents when I was little, but I grew up in Houston in predominantly White spaces.” She recalled, “I wasn’t getting a lot of exposure to other people who were Chinese American. Food was the way that I started to understand pieces of that identity.” After a recent dinner, Luo gave guests two little bags of frozen dumplings to take home: one containing her own family’s recipe and the other filled with Cho’s.  

Luo’s passion for connection extends beyond cookbook dinners, though. After moving into her current building, she lamented that the culture there didn’t embrace socializing. So, she created a text chat group, adding people as she met them in the hallways. She then made some food, sat out in the garden, and invited the neighbors. But she wondered, “What if nobody shows and I’m just sitting out here?” Happily, she managed to wrangle half of the building’s 30 residents. She added, “I met one of my best friends through this garden picnic. She lives in my building.”

“My family is Punjabi, and planning around food and commensality is ingrained in Indian culture.” —Member Mandira Ghai

Other Coop members are building community in the store. Mandira Ghai, who joined in 2016, co-chairs the Cooking Squad, which hosts free monthly cooking classes. Growing up, Ghai expressed how her parents really set the stage for a life of community-building through food. “My family is Punjabi, and planning around food and commensality is ingrained in Indian culture.” Commensality is defined as sharing a meal at a common table.

Her parents, newly emigrated from India, ingeniously taught cooking classes from their home in Pittsburgh to expand their social circle. Ghai continued her parents’ legacy when she joined the Cooking Squad in 2018. She fondly remembered: “It was a dynamic shift with people regularly collaborating to put together an instructive hour in a small space. Our squad had a very respectful and welcoming rapport. We became friends.”

When the pandemic hit, everything changed. In-person classes and member labor ceased. The Coop hired additional staff to keep operating, including chefs to feed everyone. Instead of stewing in individual panic, Ghai wanted to contribute. Cooking was still the answer. In 2020, she volunteered twice to prepare lunch for approximately 60 staff members (pictured above). Ghai reflected that “cooking provided a different level of gratitude and empathy. I saw the staff’s hustle amidst uncertainty and fear. The way they reshuffled to keep members safe and informed was truly remarkable.”  

Before the pandemic, Coop member and professional chef Ronna Welsh found inspiration and community as she navigated caring for her daughter, who was born with special needs.

In challenging times—personal or collective—food serves a pivotal role in connecting people. Welsh described how life’s challenges still brought her back to food: “I had a team of therapists come to my house daily for months, and when we weren’t talking about my daughter, we were talking about food.” The small community that developed around her daughter’s care pushed her to develop a larger community around teaching people how to cook. Welsh continued, “I started to teach when I realized that my work as a chef could extend beyond feeding those who paid for a meal. The therapists made up my very first class.”

Welsh eventually opened a cooking school in Sunset Park—Purple Kale Kitchenworks—and wrote a cookbook. She also began hosting community-oriented events out of her professional studio kitchen. Welsh recently connected with a close friend who had been organizing storytelling nights in the Hudson Valley, and hosted a storytelling night of her own in her kitchen. “The storytelling is wonderful, and the space we provide afterwards for people to talk and laugh (and eat!) is magical. I love how food is integral to the evening, but not the star of the show.” 

Last year, Welsh deployed her skills to help the Coop’s Cooking Squad.

“Ronna brought a lot of expertise and attention to pulling together the details of the classes,” remarked Jeff Bonar, who co-chairs the squad with Mandira Ghai. The squad now films and broadcasts classes from Welsh’s studio (pictured above), since they are still hosted virtually. 

Bonar shared some of his own experiences growing up around food in Los Angeles. “My father owned a Jewish deli. So I grew up around barrels of pickles, learned how to slice lox, and made butter in this big wooden churn.” Today, when he isn’t at the Coop, Bonar finds community close to home in Ridgewood, Queens, where he takes his four-year-old grandson to the local coffee shop. “We’ll show up and they know him. They know what he orders. This is a very New York thing—he knows which coffee shop has which pastry that he likes.”

Patronizing neighborhood establishments is quintessential New York community building.

Bonar noted that other parents come up and introduce themselves because they recognize his grandson from daycare. “That blows me away about New York. I know it’s a bunch of neighborhoods and people live locally, but this is such a potent demonstration of that.”

At the Coop, Bonar has been working with Ghai to reignite the cooking classes. They recruited local chef Jeffrey Mason (pictured below) to teach the first virtual class in 2023. Mason recently shared his experience: “I had done lots of shifts at the Coop and wanted to do something a little different, something that I connected with. A previous job as a sous chef included training and teaching new cooks. I really connected with sharing my knowledge with people who wanted to learn.”

Mason became a community builder himself when he recruited his neighbor and friend, Siavash Haghtalab, to join the Coop the following year.

Haghtalab (pictured below) grew up in Tehran surrounded by food traditions. He passionately described cooking as a way to show love. “I think community, food and culture go hand in hand. As humans, this is ingrained in our traditions and cultures. I show love to people by cooking them Persian food.”

Food connected these two neighbors and it brought Haghtalab to lead two of the Coop’s most well-attended cooking classes.

(pictured above) 

As I closed my conversation with Rachel Luo, she really hit the core of what it means to build community in an uncertain world. “I invite a lot of random people to my dinners. It’s kind of intimidating!” she exclaimed. “At the same time, building those connections requires you to be a little bit vulnerable. New York City can be a lonely place. It’s important to be able to make it smaller. Connecting really changes that dynamic. We’re not just random people living next to each other.”

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